I don't know what's gotten into me recently. Although normally a blog lurker, I actually left comments in a few places and tried to participate in discussions. Rather than add to intellectual discourse, I managed to get myself insulted and sucked into trading barbs. I also made the mistake of reviewing another site based on a solicitation via e-mail, and the site owner promptly told me what he thought of me and my post.
Books, Inq.
It started regarding a New York Inquirer piece: "A Dearth of American Women Novelists?" Frank Wilson of Books, Inq., offered the question to his readers, so I suggested Margaret Mitchell, Amy Tan (with a qualifier: "I could be biased since I also have a difficult relationship with my Asian mother"), and a few others. Although I don't think the slam was directed at me personally, Dan Schneider of Cosmoetica later remarked, "Anyone who would mention Amy Tan as a great writer simply cannot be taken seriously as an intellect," and, "Margaret Mitchell? She's dumbed doen Brontes? [sic]" (I think the first typo is meant to be "down.") Initially, I felt compelled to defend my picks but let it go since the discussion had completely derailed by that time anyway.
Despite turning into a polemic, the evolution of the discussion thread itself is an interesting study in gender. It began with female commenters, turned into a male vs. female writers argument, male commenters joined in, and eventually the men drowned out most of the women. It even spilled onto other blogs, with Jessica Schneider, who believes that there are more great male writers, justifiably feeling slighted by condescending remarks. Maxine of Petrona tried being the voice of reason by reminding everyone of the original question and eventually brought the topic to her site for a more civil discourse. I left a comment there and was chided, in jest, for suggesting Carol Shields was more Canadian than American.
MetaxuCafé
Read for yourself the entire exchange regarding an entry on disclosure of free review copies, which was originally posted at Kimbofo's Reading Matters. From what I can tell, I made three mistakes:
- I dissed Pynchon and the litbloggers who received ARCs of his latest book.
- I called Ed Champion's opinion "preeminent."
- I kept going back for more.
It's a shame since I feel no personal animosity toward Ed. I like his blog and think he's pretty funny most of the time. And maybe he was trying to be funny in disagreeing with Kim's post by using his own special way of turning a phrase. However, I didn't particularly care for being called a "slattern" and felt egged on when he persisted with "more nonsense from a numbskull" right before a flawed defense of his choice of words. In the end, my "limp adder snake of a brain" doesn't understand why I'm accused of preferring "acrimony to amicability," especially since he flung the first insult.
Similepedia
The Like or As Man e-mailed me (and many others, I'm sure) about looking at Similepedia, which I did, and I even contributed a few similes of my own. He didn't like what I had to say and quickly sent another e-mail:
are you always that nasty with sites trying to get off the ground, or were you just having a bad day. the publicity is still appreciated on the ground that any publicity is good publicity ... but your post was, well, a little small-minded.
The flawed data I mentioned is a problem inherent to all wikis, but he thinks I need to do some research because I don't know when something is not a simile.
Sigh.
