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June 25, 2007

Discussion: Happiness by Will Ferguson

Yesterday morning, I sent Brian an email about today's discussion. He hasn't replied and his blog says he's out of town, so I'll go ahead and start talking a little about Will Ferguson's Happiness.

Over the course of the last month, I mentioned Happiness in several posts because I found it to be a fun, fast read. Sure, it wasn't a work of literary genius by a master author. In order to be truly well read, though, I believe you need to step away from "The Greats" every once in a while to provide yourself with perspective. If you read nothing but Joyce or Tolstoy, for example, can you really know how great they are without having points of comparison? Does commercial fiction serve a purpose besides its entertainment value?

Of the hundreds of TBRs sitting on every flat surface in my home, the overwhelming majority are tragedies and dramas. I tend toward books with oddly twisting plots and hyper-dysfunctional characters who are barely able to function in "normal" society. For me, Happiness was a departure from the usual fare and it reminded me of the importance of occasionally putting aside seriousness since there isn't anything wrong with having a laugh. Do you tend to read more tragedies or comedies? If you strongly prefer one over the other, how often do you step outside your comfort zone?

Happiness, no doubt, is a comedic satire of the publishing industry. I found it funny, but satire? More than once, I wondered if Ferguson and I had worked at the same publishing company. We made fun of obnoxiously bad writing from the slush pile. Our editors thought they knew everything. We repackaged successful books and beat them into the ground along the lines of the "Chicken Broth" series in Happiness. What did you think of the satire? Based on what you know about the publishing industry, did Ferguson's characterization seem absurd?

In the story, What I Learned on the Mountain by Tupak Soiree is a self-help book that really works and helps its readers do everything from quitting smoking to having incredible sex. Although my life is far from perfect, I have read very few self-help books. About a year ago, I read a book about honesty because an acquaintance said it helped him get over his hangups and improved the way he interacted with others. I thought it was a piece of crap. [Honest.] As I read it, I realized that I'd be a pretty boring person without all of my eccentricities, so I specifically avoided its advice. Do you ever read self-help books? Has one ever helped you? Do you recommend them to others?



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Honestly I've never read any self-help books. I personally wouldn't recommend them. If I have a personal problem I talk to my parents and my friend. They give good advice and I trust that what they have to say is in my best interests. I don't think I could say the same for an author of a self-help book that I didn't know.

When I have a personal problem, I generally complain about it to anyone who will listen (rather than ask for advice). Over time, it will either dissipate or a solution will present itself.

Many people, though, must turn to self-help books because it certainly is a booming business. One of the ideas presented in Happiness is that we are all searching for ways to make our lives better. In the book, though, once everyone's life is better, society begins to break down completely because being happy is meaningless without a certain amount of unhappiness.

I'm undecided on this, so let me just throw these questions out there for debate, without having a predetermined answer. Is suffering really all that bad? Isn't there something redemptive about suffering? The idea of the challenge to overcome and better yourself. After a while, isn't happiness, well, boring? What about the idea of creative/artistic expression that results from seeking release from suffering? Or, can anyone think of a notable artwork (using the most expansive definition of "art") that came about as a result of happiness? (This isn't a sarcastic question--I really am interested in learning of such a creation.) Or are there cases when narcotiized bliss is preferable to seering pain that drives one to suicide or the brink of?

Suffering stinks. Maybe afterward it's limited. I think the idea that suffering improves someone tells us that someone lived right?

I never have read any book about myself I guess which self-help says to me. I bore others also!

Happiness is boring after a while. In the book Edwin talks about how in the consitution, Americans are entitled to the "pursuit of happiness" but that it's the pursuit that drives people.

If people are happy all the time, they have no reason to try and better themselves, to strive for something beyond what they are. If there's no will to do that, progress just stops.

Let me play Devil's advocate for a minute. If you are happy, is progress necessary? If your desires are satiated, why should things need to change? Is there an ultimate happiness beyond which no more can be achieved? In which, case stick with what you have, rather than risk ruining it in the name of progress. Same goes for self-improvement? If you are proud of yourself and what you've accomplished, do you need to get any better? Are you setting yourself up for disappointment if your reach extends your grasp? (As I said in the beginning, I'm playing Devil's advocate because I'm interested in people's responses. Personally, I don't thing we can achieve perfection this side of the grave. Further, I don't believe it is enough to say "I got mine!" I think we need to keep improving ourselves and the world until everyone is "happy." Oh, God, do I sound like a trippy flower child or what?!?!)

Elizabeth: "Or, can anyone think of a notable artwork (using the most expansive definition of 'art') that came about as a result of happiness?"

I don't know, but I will venture to guess that many great works of religious art resulted from happiness. I can totally imagine an artist thinking about the glory of God (or Vishnu or Muhammad or Buddha or ???) and creating something to celebrate happiness felt in faith.

Suffering stinks as Brian says, but happiness does, too. It stinks because it's elusive. No matter how happy someone might be, they either don't recognize it for what it is, constantly strive for more, or are ignorantly blissful (and, therefore, not truly happy). This third condition is what happens in the book as What I Learned on the Mountain sends its devotees into a state of bliss, a pathological euphoria closer to madness than happiness. Duck makes a good point in bringing up "the pursuit of happiness." Even America's founding fathers understood its elusiveness, since striving for it is more likely—and possibly even better—than attaining it.

In response to Elizabeth's second comment, I'll answer questions with a question borrowed from the movie version of an Anne Rice novel: "What if all I have is my suffering? My regret?" I know I am unhappy (or dissatisfied, more accurately) most of the time. I often even revel in it by bitching and moaning or turning it into a joke to amuse others or sabotaging myself. In some way, I could be addicted to suffering since my happiest moments are made even happier when I went through some sort of struggle beforehand. As a result, I don't think "ultimate happiness" exists because I always need to bring myself down to a low in order to enjoy the high.

marydell-You write that happiness stinks because it is elusive. But if you haven't attained it yet, how do you know it stinks? It is the elusivity, or the pursuit, that stinks, not the reward itself. I can relate to your addiction to suffering. There are aspects of my life/behavior that are painful, but they are like old jeans, ripped and dirty. Yeah, the new pair of jeans are clean and look cool and might even fit better. But I've become attached to my old jeans--they are comfy and have been with so much with me, so many memories are attached to them. They are ugly and they don't keep me warm when the winds of the winter of our dissatisfaction whip through them...but they are mine.

Although I'd agree that I haven't "attained" happiness, I certainly can say that I've "experienced" it. The pursuit, I think, is better than happiness itself because it's what keeps me going. If I suddenly gave up on trying to make myself happy, I'd probably crawl into the woods to die. Happiness might be a reward for enduring the pursuit, but it does stink because it never lives up to my expectations or last as long as I hope it will.

I'm expecting to be happy today. My cat, who was my very best friend, had to be put to sleep a couple of months ago because he caught feline AIDS from one of the many strays littering my neighborhood. I was devastated and went into a depression that lasted for a few weeks. I thought I would never have another cat again, but the depression lifted over time and I became open to the idea of getting another pet. As it turns out, my sister's friend is moving and needs to give up her two cats. I will pick them up this afternoon and am nearly beside myself with excitement.

Now, here's the thing. I pick up strays (cats, parakeets, men) and might have taken in the two cats even if my buddy were still alive. However, today is so much sweeter than it could have been because I had to endure the suffering of making the fatal decision. The bad makes the good better. In addition, my expectations about how happy I will be when I get the boys home is more exciting than the happiness I will feel after they are finally here.

Switching gears but still related: on last night's Colbert Report happened to be the author of Stumbling on Happiness, a self-help book veiled in neuroscience. According to the author, human beings are incredibly bad at predicting what will make them happy. Because of this, we repeatedly make the same errors in pursuing happiness then rationalize about why we ended up with an unhappy outcome.

I completely agree with you about the bad or the struggle making happiness much sweeter. However, I disagree with your definition of happiness. (I guess it's the definition--we are disagreeing on a certain matter; however, I'm not quite sure what it is.) If it doesn't live up to your expectations, is it happiness? Isn't happiness satisfaction of all wants and desires? I think that the situation you have described (about being disappointed) is a perfect example of what the author of Stumbling on Happiness describes. Please don't think I'm pointing fingers--I myself very frequently doggedly pursue something I think will make me happy only to have that little puppy bite me in the end.

I agree that happiness has finality and disappointment comes if happiness stops. But not when one is happy like elizabeth says. Also I think once happiness occurs one has the requirement to happy. I happy, you happy, he happies, they happy, we happy would conjugate to happy.

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